This has been a week for disappointment and happiness. Some personal events took place these past few weeks that made me question my entire purpose in life. Everyone is good. Family is good. Just something that kind of threw me off and now I am second-guessing things. I need a few days to process it,
On a happy note, I believe my son has chosen the university he will attend this fall as a junior. He was accepted to the university I work for but he has chosen to go to CSU Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. He will be a Mustang. After the college visit he had, the other schools he was accepted to paled in comparison. I’m happy, that he’s happy.
Right Now:
Coffee and church and maybe some reading with all the windows open. It’s expected to be 85 degrees today.
This Week:
After all the things I had to do these past few weeks I finally feel as if I am on top of them. We just need to pay a visit to the junior college to submit my daughter’s summer school requests and we’ll be good for awhile.
My life group is on break so that gives me my Tuesday nights back for a little while. I am kind of excited about that.
On Saturday, three of us are seeing Legally Blonde at the university I work for. This same night, my daughter has prom. She’s only a sophomore but is going with some juniors and seniors in theatre. We got her dress before the wisdom teeth came out which is good because we would not have had time to do so given that prom is so darn early. I remember prom being in May, not before Easter!
Reading:
As usual I am reading more than one book at a time. On the 17th though, I have a discussion meeting for There There so I am reading it between other books. I am in this weird reading mood where I just want to read fast, drama-filled stories. Don’t think this one falls into that category so we’ll see how it goes.
Watching:
There is language. A lot of bad language and adult themes but Ken Jeong’s Netflix Special is hilarious! It’s only about an hour long but I laughed the entire time. I think he is just as funny without the language but there’s plenty in there so just know that going in.
New Things I’ve Tried:
I haven’t tried anything that’s been good so I won’t share any of it here but I gave up yelling for Lent and so far that is going well.
Grateful for:
Everything is blooming right now. We’ve had so much rain this year. Everything is so green and fragrant. I love it.
Question for you: How do you handle disappointment? Does retail therapy work? Self-care? A hike? Right now, I feel the need to isolate myself which is not the best way to go.
Book Chatter 
Congrats on your sons choice of school! Will he still be living at home?
I have the Jackson book saved on my Hoopla account. I like listening to her books because they are read with a Southern accent and often by Jackson herself.
To try and answer your question about disappointment; I guess it depends on what the disappointment is. Although it usually means that I need to reevaluate my expectations. Why was I so disappointed? Your right that isolation isn’t best but sometimes you need to take a step back and reassess. Hope this helps. Enjoy the day, it’s finally warm and sunny here – so reading will have to wait until tonight. I finally read Junot’s The Wonderous Life of Oscar Wao. When I started it, I didn’t think I was going to like it, but it turned out to be an enjoyable story even though there were some horrid scenes.
My son will be about a three hour drive from us (190 miles one way) so he will need to live in San Luis Obispo. I am not a fan of dorm life. I work for a university and so much happens in the dorms but he is looking into other options.
This disappointment thing is still weighing heavily on me. I’ve talked it out, spent time by the ocean, thought it all through… prayed. Still, nothing. I’ll have it figured out. I just need a few days of nothing so I can focus.
Jackson is pretty funny on Facebook. I bet her audio books are enjoyable.
Congratulations to your son! I usually handle disappointment by talking things through with my husband and a few very close friends – one in particular always makes me feel better.
I spent some time talking to The Hub about it and he did mention one solution or path I could take but it’s not an easy one. None, will be. I start to feel better about things and then I am reminded of something and the angst starts all over again. I tend to make things bigger than they are. I know this but this one is difficult.
I am so sorry that you are having disappointments that sound significant. I talk disappointments out, realize I may not have any control over them and try to move on. I’m not always successful, but time does help. I am so excited for your son; Cal Poly is a great college!
Yes, talking it out helps but I’ve done nothing but talk it out this weekend and I am still bothered. I just can’t figure out a solution. Not right now, but I’m sure one will come to me.
My son is very excited about SLO. He might already have a TA job in the works.
So wait your son isn’t going to the university that you work at? 😉 Just kidding. Based on the website, it looks like a beautiful campus. What will he be majoring in or does he know yet?
I’ve been thrown off slightly too in recent months and to be honest, I’m still processing too. Retail therapy definitely doesn’t help me, but actually stepping back and thinking about the situation(s) and writing things out has helped (some). In my case, it’s not necessarily isolation but solitude isn’t a bad thing when major disappointments happen…and bouncing ideas off spouses helps too. A hike, though, definitely clears the head.
He’s majoring in Arts Administration with a minor in Rec & Tourism.
Congratulations to your son. I hope he will love CSU Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. I wish him all the best. At least he won’t be too far from home. I hope your daughter’s recovery from wisdom teeth removal went smoothly.
I am sorry for what you are going through, Ti. Retail therapy does help me sometimes, but not if I don’t have the money to spend. I tend to prefer to take time out for myself and focus on self-care. Or doing something big and fun with my family to get my mind off whatever is bothering me. It depends. Talking it out can help too–and the passing of time. Sending a big hug your way.
I hope you have a better week!
For me, retail therapy is book buying… I won’t lie. But this time, I just feel like moping. Wallowing. I did practice a little self care last night and that felt good but I also ate too much which didn’t. On Saturday, I spent some time by the ocean which helped a lot until I got home and remembered all my worries.
My daughter is doing very well. She had a follow-up just to make sure her sutures were good and they are. She has the prom this weekend so I am glad the mouth is looking good.
My son is very excited! SLO is a great school and he really loves the town too.
I hope the disappointments are not too troubling. Enjoy having those Tuesday nights back, even for a little while. I’m glad your son has chosen a good school. 🙂
Congrats to your son – such an exciting time of life! I handle disappointment with a long walk by myself, then a long talk with my husband. Retail therapy doesn’t so much for me… that’s probably a good thing!
I really need to take a hike… it’s one of the few things that really take me out of my head. No time though! I’m still down. It’s one of those things that I am not sure can be resolved. I should know more by next week.
Congratulations to E! That is so exciting!
How do I handle disappointment? I am an emotional eater and emotional shopper. It doesn’t matter the emotion either. I fear the UPS drivers can drive to my house with their eyes closed by now.
I am not much of an emotional eater anymore but I used to be. Now, I just lose my appetite.