Clouds and Rays

While visiting my in-laws over spring break, we ended up losing my father-in-law. A lot of you saw my posts on Facebook so you guys are in the know, but I thought I’d mention it here because I will be away from the blog for a few more days as we attend the funeral and visit with the rest of the family.

What I can tell you is that this was sudden and unexpected and at the same time just horrible to witness. The plus side is that we had one good night with him when we went over there for dinner. He wasn’t feeling well but we got to spend time with him. The next morning was spent in the ER and eventually the ICU. I like to think that he knew we were there but I can’t be certain.

Life. Everyone always says to not take it for granted but of course we do. We get comfortable and don’t pay attention to the important things.

Anyway, The Hub is just trying to process it all. It’s weird how when you lose someone, it doesn’t immediately hit you that they are gone. You catch yourself wanting to pick up the phone or addressing a letter to them, etc. When I lost my father it was that way, and I expect it will be that way for The Hub and his brothers too.

The photo above was taken yesterday. I was trying to explain to The Girl that grandpa is in heaven with Momo and Papa and we both looked up and at that very moment, the sun peeked out of that dark cloud. I don’t know if you can see it but when The Girl blew this photo up, she found three distinct areas of emphasis. Of course, we take this as a sign. A good sign. A comforting sign. Whatever it is, we’ll take it.

22 thoughts on “Life”

  1. Ti, I’m so sorry for you and your families’ loss. I’m glad you were all able to have one good night with him before he passed away. I’m sure he knew he was surrounded by his loved ones, because I’m sure he knew he was loved by you all. And, you are so right that we take life for granted. Its hard not to, with so many little things distracting us from what really matters. I know what you mean about it taking awhile for it to settle in that someone has passed away. It always seems to suddenly hit you when it really does sink in. Sending prayers to your and your loved ones! That photo is great and I can see what you mean about it being a good sign – the way the light shines is just brilliant in it 🙂 Take care!

  2. Hi Ti, what a beautiful photo with the light coming through. It is a good sign. I’m very sorry for you & your Hub’s loss. Ugh. How unexpected for you; I didn’t realize that happened. I’m so glad you got to spend one good night with him beforehand. That makes a lot of difference. My friend who died at the end of March — I was able to spend some time with her at the end — which is comforting to me now. Though I agree — you can’t believe they’re gone. It’ll take quite a bit of time for your Hub to process. It sort of feels like there’s a hole that goes through you. Hmm. My sympathies to both of you. (he was so nice to mail that package/book to me awhile back. You married a good one!

    1. The Hub is a good guy and he is doing okay today. We are just talking through it. I suspect the funeral will be difficult but I am glad that my FIL had a good life and a relatively healthy one. He didn’t suffer for long and that hospital was so good at keeping him comfortable.

    1. ​There are moments when you feel that they are just around the corner and then realize that’s not the case. It’s a weird feeling. ​

    1. Yes. You know how our California weather is so seeing such a drastic change right at that moment was kind of neat. My daughter really loved seeing that.

  3. I am so so sorry that your father-in-law passed. It is tough when it’s sudden and unexpected – the ‘all the ways it could have been avoided’ thoughts come in. Sending warm thoughts and prayers to all of you and especially your husband.

    1. Thank you! So far the Hub is hanging in there. My FIL had a good life and yes, plenty of people to love him so we take comfort in that.

  4. My thoughts and hugs are with your family as you go through this. It’s so hard to lose a parent, especially when it happens so suddenly.

  5. I saw your comment earlier and am just now getting around to leaving my own comment. Ti, I am SO sorry. I wish words were enough to help your husband, your kids, and you through your grief. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you or your loved ones through this difficult time. Love you girl!!

    1. We are actually doing pretty well. It was a little weird how it all went down but the kids bounced back and my husband seems to be doing well. I got sick while there so I am dealing with that now but finally got some meds so I hope to be good by the show next week.

  6. Ti, I’m sorry about your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers… I wish I could do more, so please let me know if there’s anything you need. Much love ❤ xxxx

    1. Thank you. I couldn’t remember is I responded to you or not so I thought I better just in case 😉 We are all good. I am just trying to get back into a routine and in the middle of it all managed to get the worst ear infection of my life! I am on meds now but what a doozy!

  7. Ti, I’m so sorry…I know I’m late to the news. Grieving is such an odd process, and I’ll be thinking about you guys. How awful yet wonderful you could be there.

    1. I know! The timing was weird with it being spring break and at but at the same time it allowed us to be there for him. Thank you for thinking of us.

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