The Jerk Store

I am a huge fan of Seinfeld and there is this one episode where George strives for witty comebacks and in his attempt to do so, he comes up with this.

Well, I certainly wanted to use that line on The Boy’s basketball coach the other night ’cause this guy tossed my kid out of basketball camp. Awhile back, I mentioned that my son had some issues with the growth of his chest. I didn’t go into detail, just mentioned it and said that he might have to have surgery down the line because his sternum is growing ahead of him. Anyway, he can play sports, but repetitive use of muscles anywhere near his chest, creates inflammation yada yada. So he can’t do hundreds of push-ups. You get the idea. He has a doctor’s note and it’s all in his file.

All of his other coaches work around it. Not a problem and as long as it doesn’t get inflamed, he can do anything else and it doesn’t affect the game. But, his chest was hurting the other night and he was working through it, but clutched his chest a few times. Somehow, this jerk took that as a sign of rebellion and tossed him out! Told him not to come back. Ever.

Funny. He’s a student leader. All of his teachers have nothing but good things to say about him yet all of a sudden he has an attitude that warrants his removal from the facility?? I don’t think so.

I get that this is high school. That things are handled differently. I get that he missed practice because of the DC trip (which was approved and scheduled months before we even knew when camp was). I also get that he missed practice for production week (the play) but hello, the camp is OPTIONAL and not a requirement for the team. Additionally, it states right on the packet, that vacations can be taken. This guy clearly had it in for him because of the missed practices. That, or he’s the type of guy that would laugh at a kid in a wheelchair. Wouldn’t surprise me.

I won’t even mention that they changed the camp times from morning to evening which basically conflicted with everything the kid is doing (cross country, the play, Associated Student Body). Okay, I guess I just mentioned it didn’t I?

How would you guys handle it? I sent an email to the head coach (who was not there) stating the facts. Truthfully, The Boy won’t be playing even if they decide to let him. I don’t want him around that idiot. I asked that they transfer all of the money he raised for the team to cross country, but I’m sure that won’t fly either. What can be done at this point?

Right now, calling him a jerk feels good so I’ll just keep doing it.


29 thoughts on “The Jerk Store”

  1. This is a school affliated camp correct? If so, I would make an appointment with the Athletic Director first. If you don’t get anywhere then the Principal. The coach’s behavior is uncalled for and needs to be rectfied. Let us know what happens!

  2. Mega- Jerk! UGH! Definitely take it up with the school administration. I hate it when coaches or teachers treat kids that way – it is just so wrong!! And yes, keep up posted!

  3. I think emailing the head coach — stating the facts was good. I would follow up with him or the athletic director — on how bogus this was

    1. Can I just say how much I love the fact that you used the word BOGUS in your reply. That’s exactly it. It’s bogus.

      1. Ti — we think alike, on Seinfeld etc. Bogus was what came to my mind. That coach needs some feedback eh. Hope your son all right

  4. Oh, Ti! How awful for your son and for you. It’s disgusting the way this jerk behaved. I wish I could stomp on his foot for you. I know he’s not likely to change, but something like that should definitely be reported.

  5. I agree with the others…start with the coach and work your way up. If you reach a standstill at any point, written documentation of the incident and your concerns sent to the superintendent cannot be ignored. There are unfortunately a lot of teachers/coaches in our schools who have no business working with kids…we don’t have to stand for it.

  6. I agree with working your way up from head coach. Sorry that you and your son are having to deal with that! The guy sounds ridiculous.

  7. pls do a follow up on this…my son stopped doing sports because of idiots like that! and don’t let them keep your money!

  8. Sounds like youve been given good advice! Working in a high school, starting with the coach, then athletic director, principal, superintendent is the right path. Documenting everything is important. I feel badly for your son who is a victim of circumstance through no fault of his own, but it leaves a bad taste in your mouth.

  9. Oh man … this coach is a massive jerk. I think you have the right to take this to “the powers that be” and calmly state your case and provide all the information you shared with us and let the cards fall as they will — which should definitely be IN YOUR CORNER! This is just really wrong, and if you don’t stand up, then this guy will continue to act like this and he must be stopped. That said, I know this is probably really hard and awkward so good luck and best of luck! I’ll be thinking of you.

  10. oh boy… My son had medical issues in 9th grade football that had him miss a few practices and the coach viewed this as weakness. He didn’t get to play much. I say this because I get were you are coming from…. optional isn’t really optional in HS…. frustrating message right?

    This guy does sound like a jerk, especially if his chest thing doesn’t impact his overall performance.

    I don’t have any advise… sorry.

  11. Sounds like you’ve done all the right stuff. Have handled it all very well. The problem is this one individual. You have to think of your kid first. And take care of him. And that’s what you are doing. Good job.

  12. If I could, I would march right up to your son’s coach and bop him on the head with my crutch! That guy is a JERK and way more. His behavior is aggravating and just wrong. I wouldn’t want my son around him at all…I’m sure he’s a very poor influence on the kids. It’s just so unfair to treat your son that way and it sends the message that he should hide it when is chect hurts and deal with it alone. And that is not right.

    I’m not sure what more you can do than apprise the head coach of the situation and keep your son away from the J***a**

    “The Jerk Store” episode is a great one!

    1. As usual, no matter what the situation you always make me smile. I am going to post an update but the outcome is bittersweet. I would love to see you beat the guy up with your crutch. I would PAY to see it, actually.

  13. I think multiple complaints up the hierarchy of management are not only justified, but important to make sure that this doesn’t happen to any other kids who have health issues. It is discrimination pure and simple, and regardless of whether or not you want your son on the team (completely understandable to want to spare him from any more of that) I believe he is owed an apology.

    1. It would be different if this coach admitted that there was an issue…even if he suggested a misunderstanding… but he stands firm that my kid was the troublemaker. I can take it higher, but what good would it do if the coaches band together and deny what happened? This way, the head coach knows and I feel he will keep an eye on it. He didn’t say he would, but after I spoke with him, he seemed to have a little less confidence in the guy by the time I was done talking.

  14. Maybe ask your son whether he wants you to do anything, first. He may want to let it go and just pursue his other activities instead. Sometimes complaining to the school rebounds on your kids in the way the teachers/administration treat them. It shouldn’t be that way, but that’s human nature, unfortunately.

    1. Personally, I think he is ready to be done with it, but at he same time, he wants to play. He hasn’t said one way or the other what he wants us to do. He’s so depressed over it that he’s not commenting much.

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