It’s Starting

You see this cute little boy? He was about three when this photo was taken. Just a little moppet in a bookstore.

Well, he is 11-years-old now and tonight, I get to take him to a junior high parent meeting.


It’s all starting, the girls, the text messages, the girls walking by our house at night, the deeper than deep voice that came out of nowhere and oh, did I mention the GIRLS?

Now I realize that back in the day, I did not have a cell phone to text my friends, but I don’t recall being into the boy-girl scene until I was about thirteen.  The other day he woke up, had a girlfriend and then by the end of the day, they broke up. How can this be? No dating took place.

Anyway, tonight I descend upon the school for the very first time. He’s mortified that I have to take him but it is a parent meeting afterall. Do you think he’ll survive? Do you think I will survive?

27 thoughts on “It’s Starting”

  1. Tina tlhis made me laugh! That deep voice thing? I don’t even recognize by boys talking when they are in the other room. And you already saw our “dating” foray with our “baby” Sam on facebook 2 weeks ago. They too have already broken up. If it makes you feel better, I got a text message from Sam when I got to work today….They are working on registering for classes in homeroom today for next year–and that would be high school classes I am talking about!!! HOW did THIS happen. My last baby out of 4 a high schooler.
    Hang on for the ride–it only speeds up. OH, and girls? I wish they would go away! 😉

    1. Ok. I do feel a bit better after reading your comment. I am trying to explain to my son that having a girlfriend and calling her such, usually involves a bit more than a text asking, “Do you want to be my girlfriend?” After thinking about it further though, I think this is a fine idea because I am not ready for the real thing.

  2. Good Luck Ti. Raising children is never easy.

    I have one of each, and for me the girl was lots harder. Those mood swings beginning at age 13 ugh. I did not think my daughter & I would ever have a normal relationship (13-18 was tough). She is everything and more that I wanted my daughter to be though. The son as well.

  3. Survival prediction 100%. My eldest is twelve and in her first year of middle school. The hardest part for me is dropping her and her friends off at places and knowing that I am expected to just keep going. Have considered shadowing them quietly but know that is not the plan. So I understand right where you are right now and wish you all the best!

    1. Thank you! I am comforted by knowing that he is really a good kid but this middle school stuff is going to his head lately. All of a sudden he wants autonomy and I am trying to explain that legally, I have an obligation to keep him safe but he just grumbles and groans.

  4. Peace be with you my friend. The whole thing scares the heck out of me with my 12 year old. I hope you and I escape the whole thing with our sanity!

  5. Ti, what a ride you are in for. 🙂

    No, really, enjoy this time. It may be tough some days, but as the mother of a grown daughter, you’ll look back on it and see the silver linings. Hang in there, my friend. This too shall pass. And, unfortunately, they do grow up. So fast. Hugs to you!

    1. Thank you for those kind words. I survived the parent meeting. My kid looks at least 3 inches taller than the average scrub so at least he looks the part 🙂

    1. Haha!! I already had it with him, sorta. I say sorta because the giggling and laughing distracted me a bit. The Hub talked to him too but being a man doesn’t automatically make him qualified to speak on the subject.

  6. HAHA!! Softdrink is evil!

    Your boy was (probably is!) adorable! I’m sure it’s especially weird to remember him so little and to see him growing up and doing very adult things like dating! Why does it always seem that we were older when we did that stuff, even if we weren’t? 🙂

    1. Jill is evil, isn’t she?? My son and his friends sat in a corner at the parent meeting texting each other whenever a cute girl entered the room. They were sitting right next to each other!! The hormones are raging already!

  7. I remember that having a “boyfriend” was trendy in fifth and sixth grades. We would say that we were boyfriend and girlfriend but there was no dating. I think this kind of thing just happens. The real dating is the part that I look forward to less with my kids. My son already had a “girlfriend” in the first grade, but now he’s in third grade and he thinks girls are yucky. 🙂

  8. Oh my. My oldest niece and nephew (11 and 12) are entering this stage, too, and my nephew has a “girlfriend” he’s never been on a date with, but he SENDS HER EMAILS AND TEXT MESSAGES! What? I remember having a “boyfriend” in sixth grade, but the entirety of our relationship took place on the playground and in the cafeteria. What do two 12-year-olds email each other about? I am concerned.

    And I’m pretty sure that as the cool aunt, I’ll be the one having the condom discussion. So thanks, Jill, for mentioning that!

    1. I do okay with “the conversations” and in one sense I am a very cool mom and let him do his thing but I do have one eye on him to keep him on the straight and narrow. I’ll be okay once he actually starts 7th grade.

  9. My son is 11 and heading to middle school next year but he’s not in these “stages” yet. He has no cell phone and his voice isn’t changing…yet! You’re preparing me for what is ahead, oh boy!

  10. I cannot tell you how happy I was when my youngest got out of middle school! Oh, you will be having girls all over that kid—they will just be gaga about his eyes!

  11. Ohh I feel for you, Ti. My 9-year-old has been getting his hand held and have heard I love yous, etc. I should freak out but am just glad he’s been telling me, for now. Good luck! 😀

  12. I think you’ve forgotten how toddlerhood is the first adolescence. My three-year-old son is going through his own version of The Changes, *and* is clearly in love with a preschool girl named Teagan. But at least at this point I can still pick him up and carry him where I want him. It’ll be harder when he’s bigger than me!

    1. I saw this with my daughter more than my son. All the boys in her kindie class had the biggest crush on her! She was oblivious though 😉 Still is.

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