You Asked, I Answered – Part 1

A few weeks back I took a chance and asked if any of you had any questions to ask me. I enjoy getting to know a blogger through some personal tidbits. Not too much, mind you, but enough to know they are real flesh and blood and not just some troll posting as a reader. Ahem, went off a bit there.. so here we go with the first set of questions. There will be three parts unless I receive anymore questions between now and the final post.

Rhapsodyinbooks asks:

What I want to know is, how do you find time for reading between work and kids and husband and taking care of the house? Do they let you read undisturbed or do you need to hide out somewhere?

For the most part, the kids are fine. They know reading is my thing and they are old enough now to feed themselves (just kidding). It’s The Hub who is the problem. He does not get it, and never will so I endure endless comments about my reading. As far as the house is concerned, I am an organization freak so I cannot read until the house is in order. This leaves me time to read at night and I read a lot while at work (before work and at lunch). Sometimes I can sneak away to my room if they are all watching a really good movie. I have been known to do that.

Helen Murdoch asks:

You may not want to share this with us, but I seem to remember you had a post about medical stuff that was going on. I’d love to know how you’re doing!

I was diagnosed with lupus a few years ago. Lupus is frustrating because you look perfectly normal and in most cases quite healthy but your body is essentially attacking itself. It’s an auto-immune disorder and manifests itself in many ways. For me, it’s mostly food allergies, skin rashes and problems with inflammation of my vocal cords. The vocal cord thing actually caused me to change job roles because I used to do a lot of public speaking and I am not able to do that anymore. On top of all that, extreme exhaustion. Most days I am running at about 80% which is much better than when I was first diagnosed.

Sandy says:

You know, I remember you doing a list of things about yourself that I totally LOVED. Random things. I know you have alluded to the fact that you didn’t necessarily have the happiest childhood, so we are going to avoid that unless you want to talk about it. I would love to know about your reading life as a child.

I turned to books for escape. At age 5, I would spend as much time as I could in the school library before going home and when I finished with those, I forged my mother’s signature to obtain a library card from the public library. I’d spend hours there, going through the Nancy Drew books (my fave!). There was a librarian who took me under her wing. She’d hide all the Nancy Drew books for me and then turned me onto other books once I had read all of those. I loved Encyclopedia Brown, Beezus and Ramona, and Victoria Holt which is strange since I was only 7 or so at the time.

In case anyone is curious, the random list Sandy refers to is under the About tab, above.

BermudaOnions asks:

I do think knowing more about the blogger helps you form a connection and also helps you realize if their tastes are similar to yours. I remember reading about your childhood and I’m wondering where you grew up.

I was born in Manhattan but only lived there until I was about two. Although young, I do remember Central Park and the zoo and the subway. Oh, the subway scared me to death. Then we moved to California and I grew-up in Hollywood. We moved a lot during this time but it was always just a few blocks from where we lived before, so the streets of Hollywood were my playground.

Lisa asks:

How is it that you are able to read so many books?! What kind of work do you do?. Does it have to do with publishing and you are reading for work and pleasure? I think it is amazing that you read so many books and I love that you review them for us here.

I don’t think I read nearly enough. Not at much as some other bloggers, that’s for sure. Lisa, I am a technical writer/web developer who specializes in instructional design. Although working for a university means that my job is always changing, it always hovers around those duties. Because of my work, I am always online which makes it easy to stay connected.  There was a short moment in time where I managed the Facebook and Twitter accounts for my department but they decided they didn’t want a social networking presence, so those accounts are just sitting out there…so lonely.  Nope, I just read for pleasure.

Well, that’s it for today. If you missed a chance to ask me a question and still want to, just post it in comments. I will post the other parts over the next couple of weeks.

37 thoughts on “You Asked, I Answered – Part 1”

  1. Well I want to ask a question. I’m an avid reader myself and for awhile I’ve been interested in starting a book blog. How did you go about it and also how do you promote it so that people will come to your site?

  2. Thank you for answering our questions in such an honest way! I know a couple other people with lupus and know that some days/periods of time are better than others. I hope you have good people taking care of you!

    1. Thanks Helen. At the moment I have a great Rheumatologist, but a “not-so-great” internist. They don’t agree with one another or talk to each other and because lupus crosses so many specialties depending on what it targets, coordination of care has been haphazard at best. I’m working on it.

  3. Ti, thanks for sharing those things with us. I have a great-aunt with lupus and I know there are certainly difficult times. Hugs to you. Can’t wait until you get to my very “important” question which concerned Disney and ice cream as I recall! LOL 🙂

    1. The answer to your question will post on May 2nd!I loved answering it. Whowoudn’tlove a question about Disney and Ice Cream?

  4. I never realized you were a “big city girl’. Manhattan and Hollywood would have been scary for me as a child; I was very shy.

    I love learning more about you, a favorite among bloggers.

    1. Thanks Diane. I love the amenities that a big city offers but I choose not to live within one. As long as one is close enough to drive to, then that’s good enough for me. Where I live now is not small, but it has a small town feel. are one of my fave bloggers too!

  5. I don’t have to hide when I read, except when I come to the end. Jim has a way of walking in EVERY SINGLE TIME I am at the end of a book, and the more emotional it is, the more he has an instinct for interrupting, laughing at me, even just talking, whatever. It works out best if I hide! :–)

    1. I hid yesterday because I had 4 pages of The Uncoupling to read and wanted to read it in peace. But, I was interrupted and had to read it when I hit the sack. I can totally see Jim doing that to you 🙂

  6. Great questions and answers. I think many of us have some flavor of ‘not the best’ childhood experiences. I know you didn’t share and that’s okay, I have my own story that I’m not sharing on the internet. I’m glad you were able to find books as a type of security blanket. 🙂

  7. Ti, loved this post! Its always great to get to know more about other bloggers – so thanks for sharing with us. And with regards to the lupus – that sucks. I have Autoimmune Hepatitis, so I know what you mean about the exhaustion and other fun side effects that come along with an autoimmune disease. It sounds like you are coping rather well with lupus and I’m glad to hear that. Take care, Ti!

  8. I love this post Ti. I don’t have question for you now but I am inspired by how you steal time to read. I have two young boys and a demanding job at 10 hours a day. I have been reading about 6 books a month, which is not that great compared to my previous years.

    I don’t have a great childhood too, but books have always been a permanent feature that kept me going.

    Thanks for sharing Ti, I thought this is a very lovely and honest post.

  9. My mom has lupus, too and was diagnosed when she was about my age now. She struggles a lot, but she handles it well for the most part. She is always worried I exhibit the symptoms, but seeing how long it took her to get diagnosed, I am not anxious to get checked out.

    Anyway, this was a fun post. I so loved Nancy Drew, too and am thinking about pulling mine out soon. Might have to re-read a couple for fun.

  10. Loved this Ti!! I am so happy that a librarian had that effect on your life. I try to make my school library that way too…..

    My Great-aunt suffered from Lupus. She was actually the first case study of the disease in the early 70s at University of Michigan Hospital. They knew next to nothing about it back then.

    Thanks for sharing!

    1. They know next to nothing about it now! There hasn’t been much research on lupus. I mean, we are still taking antimalarial meds to treat it. Guess I will never get malaria. Whew! LOL.

  11. I enjoyed reading this post Ti. I appreciate your honesty and candor. I love the story about the librarian hiding books for you, Wouldn’t it be great if you could reconnect with her?! I had a first grade teacher who inspired my love of reading and I have tried to find her but have had no luck. Lupus is a puzzling illness and I hope that you can find some better treatment options. My doctor thought that I may have it but the testing doesn’t show up for it. They think I may have RA, or some form of inflammatory arthritis. I understand the food allergy struggles as my son has many. I hope that you answer my question, I forgot what it was so I went back to look if I posted one. I find it hard to share so much on my blog as I have friends and family reading it.

    1. i showed signs of RA when I was first diagnosed with lupus but it hasn’t shown up in testing since so I was never treated for it.

      I answered everyone’s questions but split them up. The answer to your question posts on May 9th.

  12. What a wonderful post! Nice to get to know you better. My husband has been starting to tell me I read too much but I don’t read nearly as much as I want to, of late. I had big goals for this year and now I can’t seem to commit to anything.

  13. What a nice intro to you! With regards to the Hub, my boyfriend is constantly accusing me of cheating on him with books (a running joke that is basically the origin story of my book blog). Also I am amazed that with hub, kids, work, and health issues (am so sorry to hear, and hope medical research gets its ass in gear and gets you better meds ASAP) that you still manage to read so much and write such a wonderful blog. Blogging superhero, that’s what you must be!

  14. This was fascinating – I loved getting to know more about you. I really related to the answer to your first question. I don’t have kids but my boyfriend doesn’t get the reading thing either 🙂

  15. Thank you for sharing so much about your personal life with us! My husband used to be less understanding about my reading, but we have worked out some compromises so that we get to spend time together and I get to do my reading to. (My hubby does a lot of office work at home in the evenings, so as long as I know he’s working it’s like free time to me.) Now if I could only get organized with the housework.

    I’m sorry to hear that you have lupus. Several members of my family have it, including my dad (who just has the skin condition but not the systemic version). I’m crossing my fingers that I won’t ever have to deal with it.

  16. Wow, how good of you to answer all these questions and how lovely to get to know you better. I just found your blog recently and can’ tell you how much I’ve enjoyed it.

    Plus, it’s nice to know another Southern California girl (i’m assuming by what I’ve read your a So Cal girl).

    I’m so sorry to hear about your health problems and I hope your not too sad about losing the public speaking portion of you job.

    I loved you 100 things list. I could really get your sense of humor (I love why you can’t be a vegetarian) and my favorite time is also bedtime.

    Well, there’s my long comment to your post. And it’s so nice to meet you.

    1. Thanks! Yes, I am a So Cal girl, too! So nice to “meet” another blogger from this area. That 100 Things list was so hard! It’s difficult to come up with that many tidbits when you are trying to but it was fun. I am going to head over to your blog now to check it out.

  17. That was wonderful! I have a husband that doesn’t understand my reading either but he begrudgingly accepts it. But we are even because I don’t understand his interest in TV! I love that the librarian took you under her wing. I think it always helps to develop a reader when they have an adult pointing them to new books . I look forward to learning more about you in future posts!

  18. I missed this post of yours but your responses to other bloggers great questions are terrific and so honest.
    I’m sorry to hear about the lupus and glad to know it’s under control. You and I have some similar health issues although I don’t have lupus. I have the issues with fatigue, skin rashes and irritations (eczema), pain etc. I was tested for lupus a few years ago. You may not see it, but you accomplish quite a bit in a day being a working mom, a neat freak :o) and spending time with your family!
    Too bad you moved from Manhattan! It’s cool that you remember Central Park a bit. You have to bring your kids to NYC some day!

  19. Not sure how I missed this the first time around but was happy to see it today along with part 2! I still think it is amazing that you are able to read so many books!

  20. I didn’t get a chance to read all of the responses above, so someone may have mentioned this — the part about you going to the library so young (and forging your mom’s signature at such a young age) reminds me of Matilda… have you read that book?

    1. At first I was going to say yes, but I was thinking of Madeline. No, I haven’t read Matilda.I think the only Dahl book I’ve read is Charlle and the Chocolate Factory.

  21. This is a great post Ti. It’s always so nice to get to know better the bloggers we’ve spent a few years blogging with. I know what you mean about the reading – I endure comments about mine as well. I always laugh because it seems to me people notice what they think you’re doing too much off, but not what they are. lol.

  22. OK, I’ve read Part 1! My husband has big issues not with reading, but with being on the computer. He assumes that is all I do all day, and blames blogging on whatever doesn’t get done to his satisfaction. I try to turn off the computer once he gets home…

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