Review: Forever Lily

The folks over at Andrew E. Freedman Public Relations were kind enough to send me a copy of Forever Lily: An Unexpected Mother’s Journey to Adoption in China by Beth Nonte Russell. Memoirs are not typically my thing but this one caught my attention.

Alex and her husband are in the final stages of adopting a child from China. Alex asks her friend Beth to accompany her on the trip to China. Beth is hesitant at first. Why wouldn’t Alex want her own husband to go with her?

After thinking it over, Beth decides to go along figuring it would be quite an adventure and something to add to her travel journal. What she does not anticipate, is the strong emotional bond she feels when she sees the child for the first time.

My reading of this novel could not have been timed better. A close friend of mine just returned from a trip to China and she shared dozens of pictures with me, along with stories about the people, the culture, etc. As I was reading Beth’s story, much of what she said corresponded to what my friend told me. This really set the scene for me and by page 50 I was completely engrossed.

Although Beth is there to accompany Alex, she is deeply affected by the adoption process and haunted by the children that are left behind. The detail in which Beth tells the story is at times heart wrenching, but very well written. Here’s an example:

“What happens when one is confronted with the sick, the neglected, the dirty? Either the heart opens, or it slams shut against the assault. Is this a choice or a reaction born of a million prior choices? What happens when love does not come?”

Although the book does not go into great detail about the living conditions in which these children live, there is enough detail there to make you want to book a flight to China if only to save one child. Russell does an excellent job of allowing you into her world. You see China the way she saw it and you feel her frustration and helplessness as she tells her story.

Although I was deeply moved by the book, I was distracted by the frequent dream sequences. Throughout the story, Russell shares the dreams that she had during the trip. At first I read all of the dream entries, but after a dozen or so, I began to skip them in order to get back to the story. The interview at the back of the book says that the actual dreams were more fractured when she had them, but upon return from the trip, through meditation, she spent a great deal of time reentering the dreams which she admits were past-life experiences. This allowed for more detailed accounts which were included in the book.

Overall, I enjoyed the book and felt it was well written, but I don’t think the dream sequences were necessary. Knowing that little has changed with China since this book was written, I think it would be a good book for a prospective parent to read…especially one who is considering an international adoption. It doesn’t give you all the specifics as far as the requirements of course, but it does pose some serious questions that a prospective parent should consider very carefully before going through with the process.

As far as book groups, I think there would be plenty for a group to discuss. The idea of international adoption is controversial on its own, but there’s a lot going on between Alex and Beth that I cannot get into without giving the story away.

If you’d like to read more about Chinese adoption, check out this article written by Russell that was published in the New York Times back in 2007.

9 thoughts on “Review: Forever Lily”

  1. I love the cover of this book – it just draws me in – but I’ve read mixed reviews on it. I guess the dreams have bothered a lot of people.

  2. This sounds good , but I agree that the dream sequences sound distracting, probably more of interest to the author than the reader.

  3. Great review, Ti. You know, my dreams are so darned weird I would never even think about including them in a book!!!Shana< HREF="" REL="nofollow">Literarily<>

  4. This one is in my TBR pile, and the cover is what drew me to it. I’m looking forward to reading it, though most of the reviews I’ve seen say the same thing about the dream sequences.–Anna< HREF="" REL="nofollow">Diary of an Eccentric<>

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