The Sunday Salon: Pulling Back the Reins

Sunday Salon

This past week has been challenging. Without going into too much detail, The Boy found himself in a pickle and then could not dig his way out of it. When a fourteen-year-old boy, a busy one at that, thinks he can do it all and then doesn’t, it’s an alarming realization to both him and those around him who are used to seeing him succeed.

This week proved to me that no matter how mature your kid THINKS he is, as a parent, you still have to reel him in, take the situation apart and then figure out a game plan to set it all right again. That is pretty much what happened these past few days. I had to pull those reins… yank them really.

Now, the house is quiet but the “setting it all right” part is going to keep me busy for weeks! And the events of the past week have taken the shine off of some good things, like The Boy landing the part of Lumiere in Beauty and the Beast and his solo for Jazz\Pop (choir). I hate when you want to revel in the good, yet you keep having to remind yourself that the kid in the dog house.

But at the moment, the house is quiet and everyone is asleep except me and the Otter Pup. I am enjoying my first cup of coffee of the morning and plan to do some thrift store browsing later with the hopes of finding some costume pieces for The Girl’s ensemble costume. After errands, I will finish one book and begin another and then The Girl and I will settle in to watch Thunderball as our Bond movie marathon continues. Not sure what we’ll do for dinner. I usually like to make something really good on Sundays but I am not really in the mood!

This week should be more even and calm. Rehearsals and Open House at the school. More writing and more reading. That’s all I need to perk me up. Plus, I am gearing up for #winditup2013 which begins next week. Over seventy readers from all over the world will be joining me. Can’t wait.

What about you? Doing anything fun today? Reading anything really good?

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27 Responses

  1. Oh, the joys of parenthood! Sounds like you’re putting your skills to good use this week… hang in there, Ti.

  2. It’s tough not always being able to be a “cool parent”. Sounds like you have a good handle on your situation and I’m sure all will turn out well. We just driver 1.5 hours RT so my husband could pick up his favorite “apple crumb pie”……now I have the rest of the day for me:) compromise sometimes works.

    enjoy your day

  3. Overall it sounds like The Boy is on the right track – you’ll look back on this week as a hiccup in the road. I’ve got soup in the crock pot and plan to work on taxes today. Wish me luck.

    • I hope so, Kathy. Every now and then The Boy struggles with stuff. Seems to hit every other year. It’s brought on by doing too much and being away from home too much. He will argue that but it’s true. Taxes. Hope it was painless.

  4. There are so many wonderful things about being a parent – which is a good thing, because so much of it is so damn hard! You’ll get it straightened out, The Boy on the right track, and things will get better eventually. In the meantime, there’s always coffee and a good stiff cocktail to tide you over!

  5. The pulling back is always hardest…and they don’t realize right now that it’s for their own good. My middle daughter thinks that bc she’s 18, she’s an adult…until, of course, she needs something. We’ve had a few knock-down dragouts over the last couple of weeks as well. Hang in there, Ti. It will all be worth it in the end…for both of us! :)

  6. Busy, busy mom! Have a good rest of Sunday!

  7. Can’t wait for the reading challenge next week! This is the first time I have participated in something like this (belong to 3 book clubs) but have wanted to read this book for a long time. I have four boys and can sympathize – always a reality check! Imagine March Madness……

  8. It sounds as though you were able to putout fires and save the day…

    Order carry out and relax and enjoy the day!

  9. Sounds so crazy at your house, woman!! Sometimes the reeling in is needed. He will thank you, just maybe not right now :) I spent all day reading because hubby was sleeping (working nights), made a crockpot dinner and a cake. Took the dogs for an hour walk this morning which we all enjoyed until we came upon a raccoon that met his grisly end with the neighborhood coyotes..yuck! Now, I’m catching up on reading blogs and getting my reviews written up. Spring Break starts Friday and I can not wait!!!

    Have a great week!

  10. Sounds like you had a handful this past week! I’m glad everything seemed to be sorted out. Congrats to the boy on landing a role in B&tB!

  11. You and I and our parallel lives, I swear. I don’t think four days go by where I don’t feel that I am a failure, but then something good happens that keeps me afloat. This was one SHITTY WEEK is all I have to say. Next week has to be better. Courage and strength to you, Ti.

  12. Ah, learning to juggle it all and keep everyone happy is never an easy task. It’s tough as an adult, let alone as a 14-year old!

  13. I made a veggie quiche for supper and I just finished reading Stay Close by Harlan Coben. It was very good. I finished reading it in 5 hrs, which I haven’t done in a while.

    • Veggie quiche? Yum! Your full day of reading sounds lovely as well. I haven’t been able to do that for a really long time.

  14. I’m sure he’ll appreciate what you’ve done for him later. That’s what I tell myself anyway.

  15. So sorry to hear about the ‘parenting challenges’… it’s our job to give them freedom to make mistakes but sometimes the mistakes/issues can be/feel unbearable. Definitely not what we signed up for when we decided to have them! :)

    Good luck and hugs

  16. When is your spring break? Sounds like you could use some R & R somewhere. Palm Springs area? Our break is next Monday, we are headed to Florida this year, LOL.

  17. Parenting is tough, no way around it. Hope the boy learns from the situation and things move forward this week.

    • We’ve been here before, not quite as bad as we are now. He learns for the moment but can’t seem to remember the lesson for future use! Every other year, like clockwork we seem to rehash the same stuff.

  18. Parenthood is never easy and always bringing new challenges. I’m sure this was a valuable lesson for him and you … one I”m sure I’ll be learning at some point.

    • Well, if you can imagine this… he somehow screwed up again and got another week added to the grounding. This kid!! I love him to pieces but what will it take for him to get it?? 

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