The Sunday Salon: Revelations

Sunday Salon

I am not myself right now. After a very stressful work week, involving a department re-org, fighting staff members and a revelation into what may be down the road for me, I am worn-out and exhausted. I’ve worked in a lot of stressful environments, sometimes it’s unavoidable, but I will never understand the need to step on others on the way to the top. In my opinion, it stems from a total lack of self-esteem. This may work for them in the short term, but long term, it’s like pissing without a pot. Sorry for the crude analogy.

With another stressful week ahead and this also being production week for Alice in Wonderland, I am taking today to re-charge, re-group and re-focus on what’s important. My family and friends are important. This includes all of you who stop by to comment and also includes those of you that lurk. I know you’re out there and I appreciate all of you.

My mantra this week is: What goes around, comes around.

To start the morning off, I had my favorite breakfast which consisted of crispy bacon, eggs over easy, gluten-free toast and three cups of cinnamon coffee (yikes)! I will be helping The Girl with her Superstar poster, dragging The Boy out of bed and then I am off to buy something just for me.

Tomorrow, the dreaded Monday and the beginning to what may be the most horrible week ever, I plan to hit the gym (2nd visit and my body didn’t collapse into the quivering heap I expected it to). There is a punching bag there that I may get to know personally. Just sayin’.

Cheers!! Have a good week!

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  1. Oh jeez, Ti, people are really unbelievable sometimes. I’ll never understand the inclination to be unpleasant and difficult, it’s stressful for everyone. I’m going to hope that this coming week surprises you with calm and sanity..but just in case, I’m glad you have the gym! I think you joined it at just the right time. Definitely give the punching bag a work out if stress hits.

    It sounds like your day started out nice and relaxing! I love that you’re going out to treat yourself to something! Have fun shopping, I cannot wait to hear what you buy!
    Good luck to you & the kids with Alice!

    • You always make me feel better. You know just what to say and I truly appreciate it. I am sitting here with the pup right now. She is so worried about me. She doesn’t like my mean, don’t piss me off look. LOL.

  2. I hope this week is better for you! Seeing people stepping on others to get to the top is frustrating and exasperating. As I’ve spent the last hour with A People’s History of the United States, I’m particularly struck by how dismaying it is to know our country was founded on those principles. (How’s that for cheering up?) Seriously, having time to focus on the important things is necessary. I picked up a thin volume at the library entitled The Pleasures of Reading in an Age of Distraction, and I’m looking forward to some of its perspective. Good luck with Alice!

    • That’s what bothers me, not the work itself, just the backhanded ways. Be upfront about it. I will be gone a lot this week because of the show so at least I wont have a full week to deal with.

  3. I like cinnamon in my coffee too. Good luck at work. I have been there, done that, and then retired, at the right age, of course. I know they miss me :)

  4. This is exactly what you need to do today…unwind and prepare for the week ahead…

    I wish I could take you for drinks and or lunch!!!

  5. I need access to a punching bag also. I think it’s a wonderful thing to have!

  6. Sending you hugs. I remember reorgs when I was working. I think that a lot of jobs should give their employees free punching bags.

    Take Care
    Carol

  7. Good luck! Sounds bad, but maybe it won’t get worse??? Will keep fingers crossed for you.

  8. So sorry your work week didn’t go well and that you are dreading the next one. I worked in a similarly stressful environment before I went nuts and quit. They actually told me one time I didn’t have what it takes to claw my way any higher (basically, I wouldn’t throw my staff under the bus). I hope you find a positive way to de-stress (that punching bag sounds fantastic) and rise above the pettiness!

    • I am 43 years old, obviously a grown woman and one thing that surprised me, was the offer for career counseling. As if I don’t know what I want to be. I’ve worked here for 17 years, been promoted a few times and have always gone the route I’ve wanted to go. The assumption that I am some lost soul was almost laugh out loud funny!

  9. Ti: I’m really sorry to hear about all the work stress for you, but glad you have a punching bag on which to take all of it out. While I’m not a coffee drinker, I might change my mind with cinnamon in it. :)

    • Cinnamon makes it taste like the good stuff.

      Thanks for the words. I always feel better blabbing about the stressful bits.

  10. Oh Tina, sorry to hear things are so stressful for you right now, remind yourself that “this too shall pass” and hang in there kid!

  11. Aww, I’m so sorry that you had a rough week. I hope the following weeks will be much better. Good that you decided to do something good today to get your minds off things. I hope the work drama quiets down.

  12. We just had the week from hell too, it was just nasty. I’m feeling better this weekend, but on Wednesday I was ready to pack it all in and go live in the woods. The only blogging I did all week were posts I wrote the week before.

  13. For a minute after reading your comments, I thought we might work at the same place. Yes, Karma is a good thing and I only hope ‘they get what they give’. I work for two bosses who are on a witch hunt to blame those under them for everything they fail to do. Anyway, I try to focus on the good stuff too! (family, friends, kitties, books, beading, etc). In the end, those creeps just don’t matter :-)

  14. I feel terrible about your week. I’m sure it is eating you alive. But yes, as I like to say, KARMA IS A BITCH. And it will come back around someday and bite that bad apple on the ass. I just hope you can find peace sooner rather than later. Your gym time will definitely help.

    • Karma IS a bitch. That is the truth. Hey, I wish Andre could fly out here and help me kick the living %&* out of this punching bag.

  15. Ti, I’ll just echo what everyone else has said. So sorry about your week. Having your favorite breakfast and coffee sounds wonderful. Buying something just for you sounds wonderful. And, my dear, I too have been there – part of why I left my library job. Karma did come around this last year and a fruit basket turnover happened. Enjoy the gym and good for you!!

    • I have been working for the State long enough to know that stuff like this happens and that everything comes back around eventually, but the intent of people always seems to surprise me.

  16. I was upset to hear what you have been through this week and second everyone’s comments. That punching bag sounds perfect and like Sandy says, Karma wins out.

  17. Oh Ti, I’m sorry you’ve had such a stressful week. I sure hope the one ahead isn’t as horrible as you’re anticipating, but, in case it is, punching bags can be very therapeutic! Hang in there…

  18. Ugh those work situations are so frustrating!! Good luck with your next week and don’t forget to check in here if you need to vent it calm down!

  19. I hope you find time to make quick work of that punching bag. I am so sorry that the work situation is being stressful…believe me I understand that! Have a nice relaxing day, hopefully with a book!

    • Thanks! Reading is not working for me today. Too many thoughts rattling around but cleaning and cooking seems to be doing the trick! Fun, huh?

  20. Ti, I am so sorry that you are having a tough time at work right now, and have to be honest and say that a lot of these situations are reasons that I removed myself from the workforce. It can be heinous when people treat others like stepping stones and doormats, and I can understand what you are going through. I hope that you are feeling better soon, and that Monday is not as stressful as you are predicting it to be. I also hope that your retail therapy works and that you come home from shopping in a much better mood :) I will be thinking of you and hoping that things become more peaceful in the near future.

  21. In our old house, I had a punching bag set up in the garage and I miss it. It was great for working out aggression and trying to stave off that older lady flabby upper arm thing:)

    Take a breath and remember, like you said, Kharma is a ….

  22. So sorry you have so much stress at work:( Hoping everything works out in the end, and hope that shopping for you made you smile a bit…it usually works for me. Take care friend.

  23. Whatever is coming this week sounds a bit grim! I will be thinking of you and definitely make sure you beat the crap out of the punching bag…it will help! Just know that we’re all here for you!!!

  24. I do believe in karma … and it sounds like some people you know may be getting a dose of it at some point. Good for you for dealing with the stress by going to the gym. That is such a good response!! Good luck with the coming week. I’ll send good vibes your way.

  25. Ti, just remember all the joy you bring to us in “book land” and take care of yourself. Definitely wait for karma as it will happen – it’s just a matter of time…

  26. Hope your week goes better than you are expecting! I am definitely a believer in what goes around comes around. Karma IS a beautiful thing.

    Hope you find the time to escape with a good book! I need to start Norwegian Wood but have become addicted to Downtown Abbey which I discovered this weekend.

    • Downton Abbey was suggested to me by another blogger. I watched the first episode of season one and was hooked. I am making my way through season one and by the time I am done with that, maybe they’ll have season two available for streaming.

      Thank you for the kind words. It helps to know that there are people out there who care. Sometimes I feel so dejected after seeing behavior like I did last week.

  27. Oh I hate it when work gets uncomfortable! I am really sorry about all that. Yes, go use that punching bag!

  28. I was away all weekend and feel totally disconnected! It feels good to be back checking up on my Google Reader! I am so sorry things at work are awful, that just seems to leak into other parts of our lives and that sucks. I hope you can stay above the ugliness

    • Thanks, Helen. That is why I love working for the university. It’s usually a very nice, relaxing atmosphere. That’s why when people get nasty, I always find myself taken aback. It’s just not necessary.

  29. I am hoping for a better week for you. When it is no longer fun to go to work, it sucks. I hope you have something really good to read right now so you can at least escape to your story.

    • I do have something really good to read and an upcoming book tour but I haven’t been able to do any reading with all of this going. It’s horrible right now. People screaming at each other and my stomach is just sick over all of it. I came in today to HR paperwork sitting on my chair. A lovely way to start the day. Then meetings later. It totally sucks.

  30. :( Hang in there and feel free to rant away! Hope things will not turn out as bad you’re expecting them to be. Keep us posted!

  31. Wow, not fun! I hope things get better this week. That kind of stress is the more exhausting than most workouts I think. Hitting the gym (and the punching bag) sounds like a good idea.

  32. So sorry to hear you had a bad day yesterday. I hope your day turned for the better!

    Hope you did buy yourself a treat :)

  33. Ugh, Ti, I’m so sorry to hear this — workplace stresses are the worst — it’s the second home/second family. I hope things get better — or at least, no worse — and you get some time for yourself. I wanted to thank you for the neti pot recommendation as that helped me this weekend so I could breath happily. :)

    • So glad the neti pot helped! It usually cuts a cold in half for me. Helps during allergy season too.

      Oh, and thanks for the kind words.

  34. Oh, I am so sorry Ti. Work stress is certainly some of the worst kind there is. I am hoping your week surprises you by being better than you thought it would be and that the work stuff settles down quickly.
    *smiles and a hug *

  35. Sorry to hear that work is so stressful right now for you! Hope things get better soon. In the meantime, give that punching bag all you’ve got, girl!

  36. You can add my sympathy to your list. After 40 years in the business world I can honestly agree with your statement: “What goes around, comes around.” It’s a fact of life mentioned a couple thousand of years ago in “You reap what you sow.” Keep your head high as you try to stick to doing the right thing. I’ll keep you in my thoughts this week.

  37. Take good care of yourself. A career counseling offer is standard for what I assume is this kind of situation. I don’t understand your reaction to it? Work reorgs suck. I have been through my share.

    The punching bag and echoing room sounds perfect.

    Cinnamon coffee and cinnamon chocolate are my faves and yet I can’t stand redhots. :)

    • Career counseling from an actual career counselor, maybe. Not from the person who has no experience and took the backstabbing route to claw her way to the top. Plus, it implies that I don’t don’t know what I want to do. I’m a forty something, with two degrees and have almost 20 years of IT experience. No need for “career” counseling, plus it isn’t even offered here. It was meant to slight me.

  38. I will have to adopt that as my mantra as well… though I’m not sure I fully believe it. It seems like some of those backstabbers or people who step on others, seem to get ahead while those that try to take the high road get left behind. Argh. As you can tell… I’m feeling it too in my life. I’m sorry to hear about all of the chaos! I do hope Alice goes well and that the kids have fun. And I like your hair — look how long it’s gotten! It looks great! :)

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